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Kathie Powell
Helpful things to say a friend who is grieving

Helpful things to say a friend who is grieving

Grievers hear their loved ones say these things that aren’t helpful and are often hurtful without that being their intent.  But we all know the road to hell is paved with good intensions.  I have been that loving friend who tried to make it better (I’m a fixer), take away the pain and move onto to something else. “Don’t be sad it’s over, be happy it happened” Dear Lord …I was that person…no griever ever needs to hear that!! I never realized that I wasn’t helping at all. 

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Kathie Powell
Let's talk about trust

Let's talk about trust

I had broken his trust and he didn’t know yet.  I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat and I couldn’t go to work. I curled up in a ball.  I was about to lose everything. It wasn’t until that moment I knew that I truly loved him.  That I had found love, the love I had craved.  Maybe it didn’t start out right. Maybe it was a young and impulsive kind of love…. But we had the best conversations, laughed together, like each other and loved each other. Now, I had destroyed all of it.   It was my own fault and...

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Kathie Powell
Who's responsible?

Who's responsible?

After I became a Christian I felt I could be vulnerable because God loved me just as I was. But when I told my story to someone close to me and they replied they weren't like me, they didn’t have a rock-bottom story. So...that statement validated what I believed to be true, sad feelings aren’t normal. I wasn't normal. I needed to hide that side of me. I remember feeling embarrassed by being vulnerable and talking about the pain I was feeling.  Now finding Jesus gave me a beautiful new beginning but I still hadn’t learned to share my pain...

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Kathie Powell
I'M FINE

I'M FINE

I learned to suppress my feelings about everything. I learned not to trust myself or how I felt about most things. I learned to take my direction from someone other than myself. I learned that my feelings were not valid and were best kept hidden. I learned there was something wrong with me.  By the way not one of those statements is true!!!!  I learned to be a very good actor, to pretend to be FINE.

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